Elentari (ladyelentari) wrote in womenwarriors,


Long story short, my husband and I are dual-military with a kid, and after much back-and-forth and attempting to find a solution, I am ending up taking a Family Care Plan chapter.
So now I am facing the situation where my time in the Army is suddenly ending (after 5 years in) and I have had little to no time to prep for it. I had my Phase 1 physical this morning.
We don't have a lot of money saved up, so me finding a new job fast is of paramount importance. On that note, I have quite a few questions.

-After my phase 1 physical today they told me to take the papers to my normal clinic to schedule phase 2. Do I have to do that right away or can I put it off a bit?

-I just had a dental appointment last week and they told me I needed some work done, to include getting my wisdom teeth out. Can I still get this done before I am chaptered?

-I have a memo requesting that I am able to clear without orders. In it, my first sergeant put that my estimated ETS is August 10. Holy shit, that's fast! Is this a hard date, or something I can delay just a bit? (Like, til September or so?)

-I assume I will have to ensure my son is listed as my husband's dependent or something like that so his (my son's) Tricare benefits are not interrupted? (Hubby is also active-duty, but son is currently listed under me)

-Does my SGLI vanish now? What about my Thrift Savings Plan?

-I have 5 years in as of August 7th. I'm an E5. I spent 3.5 years working as a PATRIOT Launching Station operator/maintainer, and the past (almost) 2 years as Public Affairs (essentially journalism).  Any suggestions for a civilian job that would generate about the same amount of money per year?

I'm pretty nervous about getting out. I'm worried I won't be able to find a job that pays the same. Most of hubby's money goes towards child support for his kids from a past relationship, we primarily use my paycheck for bills and such. Most job listings I've been looking at online require more experience than I have. I DO have my bachelors degree, however, so that's a plus. If you have any resources you can recommend, I'd love to hear about them. I don't have a resume or anything yet. I'm trying not to freak out.
We had discussed that this (the chapter) might come about, but the last time I spoke to my 1sgt/commander, they were talking like they really didn't want me to get out, they were going to work with my husband's unit, etc, try to find other options. SO I thought things were on the back burner for a while. Then suddenly last Friday Top called me in to the office and had me sign the paperwork and BAM! I had a Phase 1 this morning. And I'm a little taken aback at how fast everything is going. Help?

xposted to a couple military comms
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